the gift
Over the years, I’ve found that men seem to fall into a couple of categories when it comes to, um, “gift-giving.” Most of them love to receive gifts, but not all of them are willing to give certain types of gifts.
Are you with me so far?
I like to give gifts. Giving gifts is a wonderful way to get closer to someone and to show them how much you care. It can even be somewhat empowering. And I don’t think that giving a gift always necessitates a gift in return. Not at all. Depending upon when and where the gift is given, a return gift might not always be practical. I get that.
But sometimes, when I’m not getting any gifts in return, I start to feel a little… upset. Even worse than the men who refuse to give a gift are the ones who will give a gift but obviously don’t like giving gifts. Seriously. Just don’t bother.
I can give myself a (slightly different) gift and save us both the trouble.
The reasons for not giving a gift can vary widely. For one thing, if you don’t know someone that well, or don’t feel that close to them, you may not feel so inspired to give them anything. For others, the reasoning can be more complicated. Some people could have had a bad experience gift-giving in the past. Some men grew up thinking it was wrong to give gifts. Some folks are worried about their gift-giving abilities, or they really don’t know how to give a gift. For that last one, please. Just ask. I can’t think of any woman who wouldn’t be willing to offer some fast, easy to understand, gift-giving tips.
Though I’ve noticed, none of these men ever seem to have a problem accepting a gift. So when I’m in a relationship, and not receiving any gifts in return, it really starts to vex me after a while.
With Valentine’s Day rapidly approaching, and gift-giving ideas all over the blogosphere, may a humble blogger make a suggestion? Forget about the Coach handbag and instead, give your girl a gift she’ll be thinking about- until spring.
And don’t forget the card. ~
Are you with me so far?
I like to give gifts. Giving gifts is a wonderful way to get closer to someone and to show them how much you care. It can even be somewhat empowering. And I don’t think that giving a gift always necessitates a gift in return. Not at all. Depending upon when and where the gift is given, a return gift might not always be practical. I get that.
But sometimes, when I’m not getting any gifts in return, I start to feel a little… upset. Even worse than the men who refuse to give a gift are the ones who will give a gift but obviously don’t like giving gifts. Seriously. Just don’t bother.
I can give myself a (slightly different) gift and save us both the trouble.
The reasons for not giving a gift can vary widely. For one thing, if you don’t know someone that well, or don’t feel that close to them, you may not feel so inspired to give them anything. For others, the reasoning can be more complicated. Some people could have had a bad experience gift-giving in the past. Some men grew up thinking it was wrong to give gifts. Some folks are worried about their gift-giving abilities, or they really don’t know how to give a gift. For that last one, please. Just ask. I can’t think of any woman who wouldn’t be willing to offer some fast, easy to understand, gift-giving tips.
Though I’ve noticed, none of these men ever seem to have a problem accepting a gift. So when I’m in a relationship, and not receiving any gifts in return, it really starts to vex me after a while.
With Valentine’s Day rapidly approaching, and gift-giving ideas all over the blogosphere, may a humble blogger make a suggestion? Forget about the Coach handbag and instead, give your girl a gift she’ll be thinking about- until spring.
And don’t forget the card. ~
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